“And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?”
― Jalaluddin Rumi
Today I decided once again to have a heart to heart with you my dear readers. We will be getting into Spring fashion and trends in upcoming posts, but before that I wanted to share this post with you.
Wow! where do I even begin? Let's just say one of my desires it to one day start a podcast or a talk show. I love sharing, talking, and connecting with people on a deeper level. So until either happens once in a while I will use this blog as my platform to express myself and connect with you all.
This year has been a very profound one for me. I realize it is has just began, but I do feel that the current that I am moving with is so different from all the other years. Perhaps it is just maturity, I don't know. On top of all the books I read, mentors I talk to, music and podcasts I listen to, I took the journey deep within myself and asked myself questions I have never pondered on before. In so doing I realized so much about myself, and things that I had never perceived before.
One of the things I realized is that until you truly have an intimate relationship with yourself and honor your truest essence you will not attain true happiness. It is essential and critical for you take some time to understand why you do the things that you do, why you react the way that you do, and exactly what you want out of life. Are you living in the present, past, or the future?
“If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
― Lao Tzu
I personally discovered that my motivation was always something in the future. As far as I can remember, this is something that started when I was still in High School. I went through High School in anticipation of going to college. When I was in college, I worked hard and could not wait to graduate so that one day I could have a great job and make enough money to support myself and my family. Along the way career changes happened, the dynamics of my life changed, yet once again I found new future things to live for. The problem with that mindset though is that sometimes once you get to that perceived destination you are not as fulfilled as you thought you would be. This is because in most cases you were aspiring for those things or to get to that place for misguided reasons. Perhaps you thought the only thing preventing you from being happy now is not having that job you want so bad, or not having that person in your life etc. This is why we get so stuck in the future and what it promises. The main one being to attain that perceived future happiness. What is true happiness though? Is there anyone out there who can answer that question? I think we all have different definitions of what true happiness is.
It is in asking myself this question that I came to realize that the happiness that I was always searching for has always been within me. All the external stimulus only bring temporary happiness. Happiness to me now means being connected in the moment, and being present. Moments are all we have, for tomorrow is not promised. When you cherish each second of your life, as well as every experience, you begin to see more of what you have rather than what is lacking. You realize that everything in life is constantly evolving, people, situations, etc. Instead of resisting these changes, sometimes it is best to flow with the current. Happiness also means aligning yourself with the universe so that you walk into your purpose and destiny with ease. You have to know yourself first though, so that you can identify what that life purpose is.
I have also had to learn let go of everything beyond my control. I learned to find peace and joy with each new season of my life despite some lost relationships, opportunities etc. I realized that once you start living a life of gratitude blessings will flow your way, perhaps they were always there but you never noticed them. Make peace with your past, let your tomorrow worry about itself, and be content with your now. Be grateful for your life. It could be a lot worse than what it is!